Captivating. Breath-taking. Desire. Pursuit.
All of these words represent beauty in their own unique way. Unfortunately, the world has often twisted them into ungodly, shallow versions of their original meanings. When God created us as women, he created each one of us to be uniquely beautiful. I’m not just talking about physical appearances—although you need to understand that you are beautiful, and you are made in His image! But you also have a beautiful heart, one that God is transforming every day to be more and more beautiful – more like His own. As He pursues us and we come to Him, He tenderly holds and molds our heart.
As women, the desire to be pursued is in our nature. We want affection from someone who thinks we’re special, beautiful, caring – all of the things that we want to be in someone else’s eyes. When we try to find these things in guys, it seldom ends well. They won’t completely fulfill our heart’s desires, not in the way that God will. And seeking human fulfillment doesn’t even have to be with guys—it can be with friends or family, especially if they do not know Jesus Christ. We must not put our hearts in the hands of other humans because they are flawed, just like us. They will make mistakes. They will say things that hurt us. They will fight with us. They will love us conditionally. Some may even stop c\aring about us, taking away affection altogether. When we place all our happiness only in relationships with other people, we fasten the seatbelt on an intense, emotional rollercoaster. If our significant other is having a good day and is very friendly and affectionate towards us, then we are fine. But when they are having a bad day or say something that hurts us, our day goes down the drain, too. Relying solely on other people to fulfill our emotional needs is a dangerous cycle.
It’s taken me years to figure this out, and God is still working on my heart. It’s a daily fight to keep my focus on the Lord and His truths, and my heart guarded from the lies of Satan. But even on the hard days, I know that I can always close the door, sit with my Bible and just talk with God. Opening my heart to Him and reading His true words of affirmation remind me that I belong to Him, and am worthy of His love and affection – which is so much better than anything the world has to offer. You never have to text or call to make sure He’s free – He always wants to talk with you. In Jeremiah 33:3, God told Jeremiah: “Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.” This promise has no expiration date; it holds true today! And while our instinct—our very nature—is to flee and run away, God’s nature is to keep pursuing. His nature is permanence because He is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). His love is part of who He is: in fact, He is love (1 John 4:8). Therefore, His love for you will never change – no matter how you feel or what you do or say. It is a part of Him: you are engraved on the palms of God’s hands (Isaiah 46:16).
It is important to remember that we are daughters of God not by what we have or haven’t done, but by what Jesus Christ did for us on the cross. His Holy Spirit is living within us, leading us when we seek Him. Even when we weren’t seeking Him, Romans 5:8-11 says that God was still protecting, loving, and pursuing us:
“…but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Since, therefore, we have now been justified by his blood, much more shall we be saved by him from the wrath of God. For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, now that we are reconciled, shall we be saved by his life. More than that, we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”
You are precious. You are loved beyond measure. You are His favorite. The God of the universe lovingly hand-made you just as you are. He has called you to a life loving and knowing Him, and being loved unconditionally by Him. If we truly understand who we are in Christ, we will hold ourselves to higher standards because we know that our Holy, Heavenly Father is always with us. As Paul wrote in Ephesians 4:1-2: “I therefore…urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”
You are loved by the One who loves you without measure or judgment or error. Walk with the confidence of knowing that you are divinely pursued.